Due to my money problem I am still living at home. It started off being a cultural practice. We live at home virtually till the day we married off. I started off like being at home. But over the past few years, my view changed. Living at home and having to pay no board have a big price to pay.
Yes, in terms of finance, I am so much better off living at home. But in terms of happiness and freedom, it is another issue altogether. I am the youngest of three siblings. My oldest brother, being the only son, he kind of obliged to stay at home even though he is married with a daughter. So yes, I live with my parents, my brother, my sister-in-law and my niece.
I think my world started to crumble down when my sister-in-law enter my life. Don’t take me wrong, I don’t mean her than make my life a hell, but the timing.
I never really understand why she is the way she is. She always screams at my brother and started crying miserably. I never know what’s wrong with the both of them. They never tell me what the problem between them is. All I know is her scream and her temper.
Beside all the post about me being angry, I am actually someone that really hates confrontation. So basically ever since she moved in, I am confined to my own bedroom. Everytime she is in the living room, I’m out of there and into my bedroom. So yes, she has made me into a boarder by definition.
My mum is the same. We know that she likes certain things certain way. So I and my mum don’t even dare to say anything when she decided to rearrange our furniture. We didn’t have much say about the house anymore. And really, we don’t really care as long as we can live happily together.
But I never know why she still always gets upset. I am seriously puzzled. Is my brother really treating her really badly? But how? The only think that I can think of that might be the reason is that my brother is not rich. He is far from rich. But really can that seriously be the reason why they always argue? But she is not making the situation better because she never works a proper job in her life as far as I know (and to be fair to her, I don’t know much about her).
When they just got married and before she got pregnant, she is a full time housewife and never worked, much to my parents’ disapproval. But my brother never said anything about that. He just keeps protecting his wife. To make things worse, she don’t even cook for her husband!!! I mean well, I guess you have two choices in life really (being a female), you either work like you are equal to any men and provide for the family and work in partnership with your husband to make your house a home sweet home. Or you can go the other end of the spectrum and be a traditional female and be a housewife. Hopefully the type that cooks and cleans for your husband. I guess there are also people that get really lucky and married into a rich family and never have to lift a finger anymore if they don’t want to. I guess most of us not that lucky. So I never understand why she is the way she is. She don’t cook for him, and sometimes she don’t even clean for him. She doesn’t even wash my brother’s dishes. And when she got angry, she will throw all their photos out of the house despite that it was raining outside.
So I don’t understand. I don’t understand why my brother’s life is so hard. Maybe my brother is not a perfect husband, but I don’t know what he has done. He works hard, very hard as far as I can see. What did he do wrong? Me being his sister, I am seriously worried sick about him. I hope if he did indeed do something that pisses her off, just stop doing it. And for her, just try to see things from his point of view as well. Of course, I am saying all this from a third person perspective. I don’t know what they are arguing about. No one willing to tell me. But please just work it out. I am sure this is not the life you want for yourself. So either both face it together and try to solve it, or just for sake of everyone, just go your own separate ways. Whatever you think you have to do to make yourself happier.
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